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The Love Balloon

11/24/20233 min read

You don’t Know what You don’t Know


I must begin with a disclaimer to identify those who may require special psychological treatment or professional help due to addiction. If you fall into this category, please address these issues before embarking on online training. You are still welcome to read this material, but do not expect immediate positive changes. I have created this website and the accompanying online training to assist every individual in nurturing and deepening their relationships. However, there are often formidable internal factors that must be addressed before one can effectively improve as a partner or lover.

Reason 1: Do You Know All Factors of Success and How You Rate Them?

Imagine, for the sake of explanation, that the success of creating a flourishing relationship depends on 50 components of a relationship puzzle. Rest assured, you do not need all the pieces to get started, but the more pieces you gather over time, the greater your ability to create a flourishing relationship becomes. Examples of puzzle pieces include your ability to handle conflicts, your understanding of gender differences, and your capacity for self-reflection, to name a few.

While each piece is unique, they can be categorized as follows:

  • To start with there are the pieces you already master (excellent!).

  • Some you may be aware of, and others you may not, making it uncertain if you'll utilize them in your relationship.

  • Some pieces you are aware of missing, and others you are not.

  • Some pieces you believe are present but are incorrect.

  • Some pieces you are unaware of, and you'll only discover them by investing effort into deepening the relationship.

Is it complex? Yes and no. If you leave the quality of your relationship to luck and circumstances, then yes, it's complex. A deepening relationship necessitates certain skills, which nearly everyone can learn. However, you must identify which puzzle pieces you lack or need to work on. I can assure you that one missing piece concerns your ability to work with the seven universal relationship needs and how to apply them in your relationship. Most likely, you haven't encountered this concept before, let alone learned how to apply it and reap its benefits.

Reason 2: We Struggle with Many Misconceptions, Which, If Held Firmly, Hinder Us

Throughout our lives, we accumulate a mix of misunderstandings, desires, negative experiences, bad advice, and hoaxes, which we believe either prevent negative experiences or promise positive ones. These ideas can pertain to various aspects of a relationship or a partner, from its development to what is possible, needed, acceptable, or unacceptable.

One crucial misconception to discard? The idea of an ideal partner. Really? Yes, truly. If you feel resistance to this advice, congratulations! You've just recognized a significant misconception to overcome. I cannot fully explain here why this notion can damage your connection over time, but suffice it to say that maintaining a list of perfect traits makes it impossible for your partner to win. If this resonates with you, don't worry; our online training is designed to help you overcome this obstacle. It's a gift you give to yourself and, secondarily, to your partner.

Reason 3: We Have Conditioned Ourselves to Love Conditionally, and It Undermines Our Connection

When asked, most people express a desire for unconditional love in their relationships. Deep down, we understand it's something worth striving for, yet most of us struggle with it. We claim to be unconditional until something triggers a reaction. During our upbringing, we were taught to withdraw love and attention as a form of punishment or self-protection, creating distance and disconnect in the process.

Let me clarify that growing toward unconditional love does not mean you stop addressing situations or behaviors that burden the relationship. In the advanced levels of our training, we explain why developing unconditional love is a gift to yourself and the relationship. We provide tools to assist you in embarking on the journey towards unconditional love. In the mastery level, the training is designed for both partners to reach this level together and reap the benefits.

Reason 4: We Need Clarity and Training—While the Internet Is Both a Blessing and a Curse

The internet offers a vast amount of information, ranging from good to bad quality. The challenge lies in distinguishing between them. While there are valuable programs and information about relationships available, finding them and assessing their quality can be daunting.

Moreover, social media and internet marketing (SEO) have accustomed many of us to have very short attention spans. If you believe you can nurture a loving relationship solely through quick fixes, short clips, and minimal time investment, then it's best to leave this site now and return when you're ready to mature. Fortunately, you can train yourself to have a longer attention span.

It's essential to note how porn influences our perceptions of a healthy sexual love life. In short, it often doesn't. Excessive consumption can lead to addiction, requiring professional help. However, even when not addicted, it can subtly shape the way we approach sexual relationships.

After familiarizing yourself with the love balloon system, you'll be better equipped to determine which internet information is helpful and which is not.

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